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Post by swankivy on Aug 5, 2011 22:44:58 GMT -5
On Purpose
What was the last thing you did knowing it would hurt someone? (The hurt doesn't have to have been intentional to count; for instance, rejecting someone's job application would count, or telling someone a hurtful truth when a lie would have eventually hurt worse.) Did you get over it quickly, or not? Did you apologize?
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Post by SHO! on Aug 5, 2011 23:23:15 GMT -5
I got into an argument with a family member that consistently is a complete butt-hole, but not only do they not get confronted about their extremely bad behavior very often, when someone DOES confront this person they usually have their feelings invalidated by other family members with a condescending nod and the excuse that we all know this particular family member is selfish, antagonizing, and apathetic. As if bad behavior is excused by the habit of bad behavior. When this person took it upon themselves to attack me publicly I pointed out their bad behavior and how self-loathing could be a motivator for many specific events and aspects of the bad behavior knowing the probable effect of those truths.
I did not apologize for it. I wasn't sorry. On the contrary, I wish the rest of my family would say the things they say behind that person's back to their face. Glossing over things and pretending they don't happen have only made things worse. But that's what my family does, without a motivator we ignore things and hope they'll get better on their own.
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Post by R on Aug 6, 2011 4:26:12 GMT -5
How funny and coincidental this should be your weekly topic cause i have kinda answered this in my next email to you in a topic i wrote about something that happened recently which was both bad but good, but was in the not-intentional category, hehe.  can't remember at the moment a really in-depth purposely hurtful moment... maybe just being too honest with people about the way they act sometimes seems like it might hurt them and i think this might be a bit painful but am not exactly ruthless, just think in the long run it will help them by hearing it; or being too quick to speak my opinion/observations about something i should keep my mouth shut about so as someone doesn't worry or feel bad but i say it in any case. need to learn how to hold back, i pretty much these days tell people how things are without stuffing around and straight to the point, sometimes that's not always a good idea and can seem hurtful or just not good. |
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Post by SHO! on Aug 12, 2011 23:54:53 GMT -5
How funny and coincidental this should be your weekly topic cause i have kinda answered this in my next email to you in a topic i wrote about something that happened recently which was both bad but good, but was in the not-intentional category, hehe. can't remember at the moment a really in-depth purposely hurtful moment... maybe just being too honest with people about the way they act sometimes seems like it might hurt them and i think this might be a bit painful but am not exactly ruthless, just think in the long run it will help them by hearing it; or being too quick to speak my opinion/observations about something i should keep my mouth shut about so as someone doesn't worry or feel bad but i say it in any case. need to learn how to hold back, i pretty much these days tell people how things are without stuffing around and straight to the point, sometimes that's not always a good idea and can seem hurtful or just not good.
Do you know you've been posting as "guest", Violette? That is you, right? |
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