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Post by swankivy on Jan 14, 2011 0:12:09 GMT -5
Pen Pals
Are you any good at keeping in touch with people who are not local? How is it different depending on whether a friend/family member used to be local and moved away, when compared to the people who have always been far away from you? When you keep in touch with people long-distance, do you prefer e-mail, letters, phone, or other types of communication?
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Post by blondiviolette on Jan 14, 2011 2:07:16 GMT -5
Well I do my best, but I know my best isn't the best you know. I take forever to get back to emails and letters, even really short ones; and they are always interesting and it's certainly not a case of 'putting it off' because there's no thought of not wanting to be in communication or that there was anything wrong with an email/letter it's just i don't do things within what would be considered a proper time frame; if it was a ransom note, the person'd probably be dead by now that's how slow I am, haha, well not really that was just a stupid morbid joke that obviously wouldn't be reality, duh!. And that has to change in 2011 this slowness. It's not really different depending on whether they were local then moved or always far away. My friends are brilliant with keeping in touch, for example am always very touched by the fact that a friend from highschool has always emailed and communicated even though she moved from country to country and a lot of people wouldn't do that keeping in touch but she did and I did, and that's nice, and of course I love that you and I have communicated via email and other ways since 2005, I am lucky to have good penfriends like you and her and other friends because it really can be a struggle if there is keeping in touch with those who there is nothing in common with and very basic emails, but friend emails like yours etc have always been a joy and we have lots in common and very in-depth/non-surface stuff. Unfortunately with some people if they are in penfriendships they will drop out of communication and never return if you happen to be too open or say the 'wrong' thing to them and that's sad, that's happened every now and then. If a friend is someone who has been not so great or there is absolutely nothing in common to talk about then I probably won't message them really much ever unless they make the move which might sound awful but it is not a good thing to keep in touch for the sake of it if someone isn't a very respectful person or if the friendship was never very strong and nothing really to say to one another. I prefer email and letters and net chat rather than the phone because other people tend to be very talkative and I don't really ever say very much or know how to respond sometimes, though I love listening to people and what they're going through, what they have to say, there's a point where you're supposed to say something good back and I often don't and then it becomes awkward and silent at times. Guess I have never been brilliant at phone conversations but am certainly much better than before. Prefer to stay away from phones if possible but if someone wants to speak on the phone and says so then will say that's okay but kinda feel like putting out a disclaimer warning that they might be disappointed, haha. A lot of people seem to prefer the phone and really are very enthusiastic about that and phoning on Skype. Hmmm...I will ring people sporatically if there's not the chance of anxiety/panic. Hope that somewhere in this comment, the answer to your question has been written, seems like a whole bunch of rambles from here!  |
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Post by SHO! on Jan 17, 2011 6:29:34 GMT -5
Pen PalsAre you any good at keeping in touch with people who are not local? How is it different depending on whether a friend/family member used to be local and moved away, when compared to the people who have always been far away from you? When you keep in touch with people long-distance, do you prefer e-mail, letters, phone, or other types of communication?
As for the difference, well I don't think any local friend/family member has ever moved away from me. Heh, guess I'm just that special.  |
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