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Post by swankivy on Jun 11, 2010 19:30:52 GMT -5
Missing You
When someone important to you is absent from your life--be it life partner, family member, best friend, or what have you--how do you handle it? And what do you do to celebrate when they return to you?
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Post by meggie on Jun 11, 2010 21:37:03 GMT -5
Honestly, I don't handle it very well, no matter how long or short the separation and/or what caused it. I cry a lot, but I also spend a lot of time thinking about them joyfully. Sometimes that makes the sadness worse, especially in cases where the person is not likely to come back into my life any time soon. How I celebrate depends on the person. When I see my son after an absence, I pick him up and lavish attention on him. With my daughter, she gets smooches and hugs, and sometimes gifts, depending on how long she was gone. With my friends, I express my joy at seeing them in different ways - for example, you're not big on being touched, so though I'd like to squeeze you in a big hug and cuddle up a bit, I won't do that, but I will bear hug and snuggle with others. With everyone I try to spend time talking as fast as I can and listening twice as hard.  And with the husband, there's an extra amount of reestablishing physical contact - with hand holding, back scratches, foot massages, and just leaning on each other while we talk. And sometimes, there's cake.  |
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Post by SHO! on Jun 11, 2010 23:30:38 GMT -5
Missing YouWhen someone important to you is absent from your life--be it life partner, family member, best friend, or what have you--how do you handle it? And what do you do to celebrate when they return to you?
Upon returning we celebrate with being giddy and doing all the things we've planned to do while we were apart. Oh, and sometimes there's cake.
 But the cake is not a lie! |
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Post by Corinne on Jun 12, 2010 8:29:36 GMT -5
Hmm... I've never really thought about it. I'd say I handle it pretty well. If we're very close, I miss people a lot, and I try to keep in contact as much as possible through email and phone conversations if possible, but I don't really let their absence affect me. I wish they were here, but considering their absence I just take whatever sort of contact I can get. For instance, one of my closest friends left for Spain a few weeks ago, and I'll only get to see her again in August. I really miss her, but we've been writing. I can't wait 'til she gets back and can tell me about her trip face to face. In the meantime, I hope she has a wonderful time! That being said, I'll probably be quite the opposite when I have children one day. Ha ha ha... Missing YouWhen someone important to you is absent from your life--be it life partner, family member, best friend, or what have you--how do you handle it? And what do you do to celebrate when they return to you? I get the feeling someone in particular is being spoken about here...  |
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Post by blondiviolette on Jun 14, 2010 3:53:12 GMT -5
In my experience when someone is absent it is usually for a good reason like they are off somewhere exciting for a holiday or maybe just that we haven't seen each other in a long while and I really do have a deep miss of my friends even if it is only a short time they are gone I still miss their prescence but I know in the end that if it's for a good reason; that they are happy and healthy doing things they love somewhere and so it is a wonderful thing really because they are experiencing joy they don't get to see everyday and I know that we're going to see each other again or talk again soon anyway so it's not like they're gone forever. If it's the case of not having seen someone for a long while just cause we haven't met up in the same places or organized an outing I tend to feel very sad and paranoid that our paths may not cross again and am more often than not these days delighted that we still manage to keep in touch and can plan to see each other again, but when it doesn't pan out that way it is heartbreaking; suppose I get very attached to people sometimes and just like so much about them that it's hard to imagine not speaking to them again. Both the holiday and paths not crossing moments we all just give each other a big hug when we see each other and catch up afterwards and are very happy and excited to be talking again, it's kinda funny sometimes like we're grinning to each other from afar when we finally see each other and just sorta run towards each other till our arms meet or a friend will stride towards you with a big smile on their face ready to give a nice hug, haha, friends are so beautiful they show such touching emotion like we've both been missed as much as each other, it's lovely. And if we know we might not see each other for a while the goodbye is longer and more drawn out but that's not always the case cause even if friends see each other regularly we always make each other feel like we'll be missed in the time we're not together no matter what, and you know, I always do miss them somehow hehe |
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Post by meggie on Jun 17, 2010 7:15:56 GMT -5
Sho, you copycat! Or are you hinting at wanting a cake in August? |
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Post by SHO! on Jun 19, 2010 2:05:21 GMT -5
Hmm... I've never really thought about it. I'd say I handle it pretty well. If we're very close, I miss people a lot, and I try to keep in contact as much as possible through email and phone conversations if possible, but I don't really let their absence affect me. I wish they were here, but considering their absence I just take whatever sort of contact I can get. For instance, one of my closest friends left for Spain a few weeks ago, and I'll only get to see her again in August. I really miss her, but we've been writing. I can't wait 'til she gets back and can tell me about her trip face to face. In the meantime, I hope she has a wonderful time! That being said, I'll probably be quite the opposite when I have children one day. Ha ha ha... I usually handle it by regularly exchanging gifts on holidays and for important events, and trying to keep in contact via the internet and by talking on the phone every Friday morning for hours. I get the feeling someone in particular is being spoken about here... |
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Post by SHO! on Jun 19, 2010 2:13:47 GMT -5
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And with the husband, there's an extra amount of reestablishing physical contact - with hand holding, back scratches, foot massages, and just leaning on each other while we talk.
