Think back to when you first met a good friend. What was your first bonding experience with that friend, or your first clue that you wanted to keep this person in your life forever?
Hm, the only thing I can think of is spending a week at a friend's house over a winter break as a first meeting. Finding out that we had a lot of common interests and world views, but the places where we differed we either found a new liking or had no problems with being judgmental about them. Mostly we spent a lot of time talking and sharing stories (as Dax suggested in this weeks Negative One). We also used much of the time enjoying things that we mutually liked but others have tried to tell us it was wrong to like (i.e. cartoons, anime, toys, etc.) and delighted in knowing there was someone else out there that put their foot down about being who they wanted to be and not exactly being what was dictated to them by the norm.
I knew I was fond of the person before, but that week definitely made me admire them and realize I wanted them in my life always.
Post by blondiviolette on Sept 5, 2010 21:51:28 GMT -5
First up, I'll talk in general terms of friendship. A lot of the time when a friendship is going to become a close and strong one there is usually a relaxed and inviting feeling from both parties when we meet and we can talk to each other without feeling too awkward, almost like we've known each other for a while already, it seems that natural. There are some new people you meet and it's just very surface and kinda cut-off like you just know there won't be much going on in the way of a proper friendship they will be an aquaintance or not even an acquaintance perhaps, but I find with those who are close friends the dynamics have just been different when meeting them, a connection, a warmth, and not that distance you get from some interactions because both people aren't relaxed or maybe not compatible as friends.
Now, to properly answer your question:
Once upon a time in two separate lands, this flibertigibit Australian person remembered a really lovely girl she had been emailing previously, who lived in America. The emailing had dried up because this person was stupid and screwed up and had stopped writing to the girl whose name was Ivy. Luckily she wrote Ivy another email many months later and they have been friends ever since! And what made me want to keep her in my life forever was that she was the essence of the word beautiful, she had a heart of gold and there were just so many things about her personality and soul to love. I liked that she put so much of herself out there online and was one of the most honest people I ever met who didn't close herself up when we talked and even in the beginning she wrote like we'd be friends forever even when we'd only known each other for a little while and that was such a good experience, we could tell each other whatever was on our minds and not feel awkward and I loved speaking with her so much, Ivy was very interesting and I cared about her greatly, still do of course, I'm trying to write this like a storybook putting everything in past tense for some reason even though everything's still relevant, hahaha. I knew that if we ever were not friends that there would be a humongous hole and would miss her terribly every single day and I knew for so long and know to this day that she has been an angel in my life, she shows what true friendship is and is a friend lots of people would hope for but rarely ever find and I've found a handful of friends like this and I always know how lucky it is to have such great friends like them. There are three leafed clovers all over the field but rarely comes along the four leafed clovers, you step over some clovers and surpass them because of where your feet happen to step in the field which you could just call life, but if you're blessed enough to come into contact with the four leafed clovers then you won't be able to say life hasn't changed. One of the best gifts I ever got in life was having a friendship with Ivy and my other wonderful friends too, I can't hate life as a collective of everything, only certain parts like bad days etc, because of knowing them; all I gotta do is think of my friends and I know life isn't the black abyss it sometimes seems
Anyhoo. That's all from me for now. hehe i just clicked on something accidently and it made this text box become bigger which is much easier to see everything now! wish it had've done that before whilst typing the main part! haha. byeeeeeee!!!!
I love both of you guys' bonding experience stories. ^___^
I love it when that conversation full of "yeah, me too!" happens. I especially love it when the other person is listening. Not just waiting for you to stop talking so s/he can talk, but actually listening, and bouncing off whatever you say. And furthermore, of course, has something interesting, respectful, and engaging enough to say so that I am compelled to listen too.